when it comes to comments
let's think about this together
Which comments do we find the most useful?
Which comments do we want from everyone?
Which do we want from only a few?
I don't know. I have been basking in encouragement lately, although I get little detailed information from the very short comments. I like when people give me back a detail and interpret it. That gives me part of them too. Sometimes I can tell that way whether I need to do more to get my ideas across.
Which comments can we most easily make?
(Most readily and truthfully make without guilt that is)
Are we commenting to encourage?
Are we commenting to improve?
Are we commenting to give back parts of ourselves?
I find that I can always give back a detail whether or not I love a poem or see its structure. I can say when I don't understand--but I cannot say outright if I dislike or see major errors in facts or see overused . . . Indeed, I find that I do not trust others to tell me the truth in these areas either. There is more going on here than insecurity. When I obscure part of my response, I assume others do too.
And what if we are wrong?
And what if we disagree?
We have a lot to talk about here.
I am not afraid to learn I am wrong, and I have a limited amount of tolerance for disagreement.
I don't like either feeling, but so what?
What can I do to be braver and more helpful than I am with all these thoughts about what I and others need and like as inhibitors?
Bring on the theories about stages in creativity.
Bring on the truth about human nature!